We were camping last weekend, down by the lake. It was beautiful weather, not too hot but just warm enough to swim. We rode bikes, hiked, swam, and threw rocks in the water. At our own pace, no one telling us what to do next or where to go. We ate when we were hungry and went to bed when tired.
And you know what? Time slowed down. I wasn’t hopping from one activity to the next. I wasn’t checking things off my to-do list. I wasn’t annoyed by life’s usual interruptions. It was nice. The change of pace was just what we needed.
Do you find your pace overwhelming? I do.
I can make 101 excuses as to why I choose to keep myself in this state of frazzled mess, but the honest truth would be that it is completely my fault. This mom sets the pace and I think it would be good for the whole family if I slowed down.
As I’m planning the upcoming school year with my schedules, calendars, and lists and wishing we could make a lifestyle out of camping, the weekend that time slowed down keeps running through my head. Am I teaching my kids that busy is the best way of life? Am I teaching them that it is necessary to fill our schedule to overflowing?
We are going to do things differently this year. We are going to slow down and set a better pace. One in which we can play more and stress less. No more racing from one activity to the next. No more eating in the car.
I am going to learn to say no.
Ha! Maybe that is what this post should be called. “Learning to Say No”. That would be the only way to slow us down. To stop and choose which activities and projects are best for our family and not choose everything that comes our way.
To say no to the perfection image in my head which lies to me about how I should be and what I should be doing.
I’m going to say no to the comparison trap. The one that shames me as a mom because I’m not doing everything the next mom does or not providing my kids with the necessary activities and experiences.
I’m going to set a new pace, our pace. We are going to enjoy life this year. We are going to slow down and do only what is best for us.
So, dear friends, if you are looking for me this school year, you will find us hanging out. Come join us!