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How to Celebrate Purim with Your Family: A Joyful Tradition

I am excited to present the fourth post in our series on Jewish feasts (or holidays). Exploring how to celebrate Purim is fun as it has a more festive feel than the serious, soul searching traditions of several of the other feasts.

The point of this post is Jewish learning for the entire family so I’ve kept it simple. This is simply a launching point for your Purim observance, so don’t stop here. For your best possible experience, research again next year and add to your new family tradition.

As is true with many of these ancient feasts, I find that the traditions have changed over the years adding a richness and history that is fascinating. Purim is found in the Biblical book of Esther (also known as megillat Esther) and falls in the month of Adar on the Hebrew calendar, which is February or March for us.

How to Celebrate Purim with Your Family

The story of Purim is an exciting one. A rebellious queen of Israel banished from her throne, and the beautiful Queen Esther chosen to replace her, but alas, she has a secret Jewish identity. There is Haman’s plan, and evil one directly from Satan to wipe out the entire Jewish community. Over the years, purim celebrations have evolved and many areas have their own ways of celebrating this joyous holiday.

This post is not meant to be exhaustive, but rather a way of learning about the Jewish holiday of Purim and embracing a culture that is different than ours.

We will talk about the fast of Esther, a festive meal, gifts of food, the Persian Empire, and the Jewish people’s survival as God uses a brave woman to deliver His chosen people from the evil Haman.

History of Purim

Let’s begin with the history of Purim which brings us back to ancient Persia and the time of the Jews exile. These are the facts fairy tales are made from. A beautiful young maiden, a king with a temper, an evil adversary, and a happily ever after ending.

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The story of Esther begins with King Ahasuerus who rules 127 provinces from India to Ethiopia. His wealth and power were to be admired. He has created a large feast for all the important noblemen of his empire. Endless eating and drinking and (who knows what else),

After seven days of drinking, the king wishes to show off his beautiful Queen Vashti to the important men gathered together.

She refuses. A bold choice for a woman in those days and unfortunately, she is made an example of.

He becomes angry and exiles her from his kingdom.

After a time he regrets his hasty decision and his attendants suggest he find a new wife. They propose beautiful young women be brought in from around his kingdom.

Enter Hadassah and Mordecai. Hadassah had lost her parents and her uncle Mordecai had raised her as his own daughter.

Hadassah is hauled off with the other beautiful young women and brought to the palace. Mordecai makes her promise to not tell anyone that she is a Jew and changes her name to Esther.

Esther is chosen to be the next queen.

Enter the wicked Hamaan.

Hamaan is King Ahasuerus’ right-hand man and he hates Mordecai. Hamaan is prideful and enjoys flaunting himself around the city. Mordecai has no respect for Hamaan and refuses to bow to him.

This angers Hamaan so much that he decides to kill not only Mordecai but all of Mordecai’s people. The exiled Jews.

Hamaan keeps his personal hatred to himself and speaks to the king about an unruly people in his kingdom that needs to be dealt with. The king gives him permission to do what is necessary. Gives him permission to kill the Jews.

When Mordecai hears this he tore his clothes and sat at the king’s gate crying and wailing in sackcloth and ashes.

Esther hears about Mordecai’s actions and then Hamaan’s evil plan is revealed to her. My favorite verses from the whole book are spoken here as Mordecai begs Esther to go to the king on behalf of her people.

“Do not think in your heart that you will escape in the king’s palace any more than all the other Jews. For if you remain completely silent at this time, relief and deliverance will arise for the Jews from another place, but you and your father’s house will perish. Yet who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” (Esther 4:13-14 NKJV)


The Persians had a strange law forbidding people to come before the king unless they had been summoned. It was dangerous for Esther to approach the king without him sending for her. The penalty was death.

Esther and all of the Jews fast for three days and she bravely comes before the king. King Ahasuerus allows his queen to make her request known.

After a series of events, Esther informs the king of Hamaan’s evil plot. Hamaan and his family are hung and cannot proceed with the wicked plan. However, Hamaan had already prepared for war by sending letters to all the provinces and it was too late to stop them. Esther begs the king to make an order telling the Jews to rise up and defend themselves.

A bloody battle ensues with the Jews successfully defending themselves.

And that is the history of Purim.

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Facts about Purim

I’m a facts girl! A few more facts about Purim not included in our history.

  • Purim is a Persian word meaning “lots” representing the lots Hamaan threw to choose the date of his wicked scheme.
  • It is customary to fast the day before Purim in remembrance of Esther fasting before presenting herself to the king.
  • Drinking an abundance of wine is a must.
  • People traditionally dress up and masquerade on Purim.
  • Shushan Purim is celebrated the following day for people in Jerusalem and other walled cities.
  • Poppy Seeds are one of the traditional foods for the festival of Purim
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What Types of Food Do You Eat On Purim?

Ok, so how to celebrate Purim? Let’s start with the food! Like all Jewish feasts, part of the fun is the amazing foods that have become traditional.

How to Celebrate Purim Begins with COOKIES

Triangle-shaped hamantaschen cookies are delicious! This Purim cookie is shaped like Haman’s hat and are filled with jelly. They are also known as oznei haman.

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Check out “How to Make Perfect Hamantaschen” by Tori Avey.

Additional Purim Foods

Some say Esther was a vegetarian (and refused to eat meat to ensure what she was eating in the palace was kosher) with a strong taste for poppy and caraway seeds. Many Purim foods are prepared with this in mind.

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Persian spinach and pine nut kuku which has a rich history explained at Reform Judaism.

Almond Poppy Seed Pound Cake

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Kulich is a long braided challah loaf that is meant to look like a rope. The rope Haaman had intended to hang Mordecai on, but was used on himself instead. Check out this Kulich recipe as well as recipes for many other Purim foods around the world at Aish.

How to Celebrate Purim

Isn’t the story of Esther amazing? I enjoy studying the traditions the Jews keep and teaching them to the kids. I’m already planning a Purim party!

A couple more tips for how to celebrate Purim!

Purim Costumes

It is a common practice for both kids and adults to dress in Purim costumes during this fun holiday. I have read a few explanations as to why.

Some say that Esther hid that she was a Jew. Others claim that God’s work is “hidden” throughout the story of Esther, while still others claim that it began in the 13th century Italy and is in connection to “Fat Tuesday” or the day before Lent.

Special Torah Reading

Exodus 17:8-16 is read in the morning service. This is the story of Joshua waging war against Amalak- Haman’s ancestral nation. This took place nearly one thousand years before Esther!

Other Purim Traditions

A few other Purim traditions are:

  • Synagogue service is noisy! The story of Esther is read and each time Haman’s name is said, everyone yells, stomps, and makes noise with graggers (a ratchet noisemaker).
  • Gift baskets, called mishloach manot, are sent to family and those in need. The baskets are filled with wine, pastries, chips, and other prepared snacks.
  • Plenty of partying going on with festivals, parades, and a Purim carnival.
  • Purim is not all fun and games. Good deeds are highly encouraged especially remembering the poor.

Do you celebrate Purim? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below! As for me, I am excited to bake hamantaschen 🙂

Now is as good a time as any to focus on gratitude with your kiddos! Click the link below to check out this cute gratitude journal for kids!

gratitude journal

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8 thoughts on “How to Celebrate Purim with Your Family: A Joyful Tradition”

  1. I love how you explained Purim for those who aren’t familiar with it. Our children love to dress up every year and they are already talking about baking hamantaschen. Chag Purim Sameach!

  2. My favorite way to celebrate Purim is with lots of food, a wide selection of drinks for the adults, costumes, and lots of activities for the kids! We visited a synagogue once that had a bouncy house, face painting, and a photo booth. It was a lot of fun!!

  3. This will be our first year celebrating Purim! Since we’ve studied the Bible, we’ve come to realize that since we are grafted into the tree of Israel, we will adopt their festivals instead of American ones. We’ve learned so much and are excited to teach our children more biblical history.

    1. I am sure this was a tough decision for your family. I feel as if many of the American traditions stem from pagan practices and we also try to focus on Biblical ones. I pray your first Purim is a wonderful experience for your family.

    1. I am so glad you are inspired to learn about Purim with your family! I would love for you to come back and share with me how you celebrated 🙂

  4. What a fun post! I knew the story of Esther but didn’t realize that Purim was the celebration of the events surrounding her life. All the goodies look delicious, I will have to try some gluten-free versions!

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