I am so excited to have my friend Stacy Pardoe guest posting today! She is here to share her wisdom and beautiful heart and encourage us through seasons of change.
It happened on a balmy August evening with locusts droning on like a reminder that the earth would keep spinning, even if my world had shifted in an uncomfortable direction.
We will all face seasons of drastic change in life, and that August evening threw me like few others. In a matter of minutes, every dream I’d been dreaming – every plan I’d been carefully laying down like a piece of some giant puzzle – fell to the wayside, and I was left alone with a radically shifted set of circumstances.
As the years have worn on, I’ve learned a few lessons about how to take the next step when the train of my life has gone off the tracks of change – even if it seems to have plummeted into the closest ravine.
If your autumn holds uncomfortable changes today, hold onto these truths to help you find the right path. It might not be the path you had planned, but we serve a Master Engineer who can make even this new path smooth and clear:
1. Fight Offense with all You Have
When life takes an unexpected turn, my most natural reaction is to take offense. If I’m not angry with myself for messing up, it’s all too easy to hold a grudge against another person, or, even worse, to hold a grudge against God.
The “If you’re not going to hold up your end of this deal, I’m done holding up mine” mentality has wrecked far too many lives.
We don’t serve a God whose ways can be easily understood, and sometimes his plans simply don’t match our plans. But it was never about holding up equal ends of the deals we make with him in our minds. God’s ways are above our ways, and there are times when his derailments are nothing short of grace – nothing short of gifts.Before you understand what’s happening, resolve not to take offense at him in your heart. This is more than a battle about your plans, your hopes, or your dreams; it is a battle for your heart, and the moment you harden your heart, you lose the battle – every time.
2. Feel Your Feelings
Refusing to take offense doesn’t mean we bury our feelings. It’s healthy to face your disappointment, your discouragement, and even your fear.
The feelings of fear and discouragement are not sins. God isn’t mad at you for being afraid or disappointed; instead, he is offering an opportunity to practice what you know about him. This is an opportunity to stand on what you know to be true, all while being honest about what you feel.
Unfelt feelings will eventually come out in unexpected and even inappropriate places and ways. Take time to face and feel your emotions. Then bring them to the light of God’s Truth by finding the written words that speak into what you are experiencing.
3. Look for What’s Right
When the bottom falls out, it’s easy to see only what is wrong in your life. It’s easy to forget about the three healthy children when the youngest falls ill. It’s easy to overlook the blessings of a job or a husband or a home or running water when the car breaks down for good. Even if ten things have gone wrong, keep reminding yourself of what is still right. Don’t stop giving thanks. Hold what you have with an open palm, but appreciate it that much more.
4. Do the Next Thing
Many poets and writers have held to the teaching of, “Do the next right thing.”
Doing the next thing is as simple as doing whatever needs done in front of you – one thing at a time. In grief, in overwhelming circumstances, and in despondency, there is still dinner waiting to be cooked, a floor waiting to be mopped, or laundry waiting to be folded.
No matter how simple it seems, sometimes the best thing you can do to move in the right direction is the next right thing.
5. Keep Dreaming . . . or Begin Dreaming again
If a dream has been crushed, you will need time to grieve the dream. You will need time to reframe it, to take it to the Lord as an offering and revisit everything from your motives to the practicality of the dream.
But don’t stop dreaming. Don’t stop asking God to put big and beautiful plans in your heart. It hurts when dreams die, but maybe what feels like “no” is more like, “not yet.” Begin dreaming again.
6. Love the One in Front of You
Our grief can turn our focus unhealthily inward. While there is a time for self-care, there is a time when the best way to find refreshment is to refresh others.
Look for someone to love, serve, or help in your life. Love the one in front of you, and you might soon find your life back in the clear and wide way.
7. Pursue Fun
I’m prone to take myself far too seriously at times. Sometimes the best thing you can do when life has fallen apart is to pursue something you sincerely enjoy.
Take the kids to on an adventure the whole family will enjoy, plan a date night, have dinner with friends and don’t worry about your diet for an evening, or pursue a hobby you haven’t taken time to enjoy lately.
8. Take God out of the Box
Finally, maybe it’s time to take God out of your carefully constructed box. Acknowledge that he works in ways beyond human understanding, and affirm your trust in him through this unknown part of your journey with him.
His arm is not too short to save you.
His power is made perfect when you are most helpless.
Your emptiness is the foundation for his next miracle.
Nothing is too hard for him.
He is waiting for you to encounter his love in action in a very fresh way through this seeming derailment of your life. There are no promises that what comes next will be easy – that it won’t require back-bending work – but there is a promise that you’re not working through it alone.
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Stacey is a lover of the woods, a passionate and imperfect follower of Christ, the mother of three blue-eyed children, the wife of Darrell, and much more. She writes words about her walk of faith in the in-between moments, and she mentors and teaches the Bible to younger women.
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I love all of these ideas, but the last one is one that I’m wrestling with, Stacey. I want to be less rigid about what I expect God to do and when He will do it too. Both are so hard when I’m going through a painful season–like I am right now. Thanks for your words of encouragement and wisdom, my friend! Pinning this for sure!
I have wrestled through these as well, Beth. So much easier said than done, huh? I’m praying for you this morning – that God will carry you, meet you, and encourage your heart! You are a blessing!
“Do the next right thing.” — I love this. Sometimes it really does come down to pushing through to the next right thing until you can feel it again. Great post, Stacey!
Thanks for reading, Ashley! Yes, I find that even if the next thing is a pile of laundry, stepping into what is right in front of me helps keep me from that place of feeling stuck! Thanks for your encouraging words!
Loved this list! Looking for what’s right has been key for me in reframing my circumstances and taking a healthier perspective. And isn’t it funny how hard things make us confront the box we have put God in?
Me too, Sarah! And I agree . . . nothing like a difficult season to completely open the box where I often keep God. His ways really are so much higher and wider than my ways!
Wonderful tips, Stacey. And this is fresh insight: “The feelings of fear and discouragement are not sins. God isn’t mad at you for being afraid or disappointed; instead, he is offering an opportunity to practice what you know about him.” Love that truth! Thank you!
Karen, I’m so glad these words were an encouragement to you! May we use every emotion to lead us to his arms are we continue to practice what we know about him! Thanks for being an encouragement to me week after week. You are truly a blessing!
Great mindsets to help carry us through seasons of change, that’s for certain. Offense caught my eye. That’s a big one, and gosh, it’s so widespread. Good, Godly encouragement here.
Thank you, Kristi! I find that I need to continually guard my heart against offense. It’s so easy to forget that God’s ways are above my ways. I’m very thankful for you and for your encouragement in this space today!
This is such an amazing and beautiful post, Stacey. “Our emptiness is the foundation for His next miracle!” That is so true. We’ll never understand why God wants us to go through some seasons of change, but if we remember that all things are for our good and His glory, then we’re walking in his will. I am so glad I got to read one of your posts, Stacey. I believe we may be in similar groups but much too often things bypass me with work schedule. I will have to read more of your posts. Thank you for sharing your heart
Angie, your encouraging words mean so much! Thank you for reading, and I’m so glad this touched your heart! Yes, I would love to connect with you more as well! Be blessed as you watch him show up in your life today, regardless of what your season looks like!
I LOVE this! “Our emptyness is the foundation for His next miracle!” That is going to be my thought for today! Thank you for this beautiful post! ❤
I think I needed that reminder all over again too today, Donna! Yes! May we overflow with joy as we watch him fill in our gaps!
I love your steps of action. They are practical and real. Great and encouraging post.
Thanks for reading, Fleda! Seasons of change aren’t easy, but I do better when I remind myself of these truths!
Wonderful advice – Thanks for sharing affirming and helpful wisdom!
What beautiful reminders. I love these steps. They seem so easy, yet we know that they take concerted effort. I love what you said about God working beyond human understanding. That is so true. We’ll never understand we why we have to go through some seasons of change, but if we remember that all things are for our good and His glory, we will be alright.
Such wisdom, Wendy! Yes . . . may we always remember that even the most difficult seasons of change can be used for our good and God’s ultimate glory. It’s not easy to remember this in a difficult time of transition, but he can use it all!
Love this! Thanks so much.
Thank you, Nina! I pray these words are a blessing to you!