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5 Steps to Repentance: David as Our Example

David, a man after God’s own heart, is the perfect example to begin this study on the 5 steps to repentance. These verses come from 2 Samuel chapter 12 NKJV.

The prophet Nathan stood before King David. He stood bravely because His words were from above and were important to this great warrior of a king. His heart beat fast because he was well aware of David’s temper and he did not have good news. God was displeased with David and had chosen Nathan to show David his sinful ways.

Nathan, in his wisdom, tells David this story. “There were two men in one city, one rich and the other poor. The rich man had exceedingly many flocks and herds. But the poor man had nothing, except one little ewe lamb which he had bought and nourished; and it grew up together with him and with his children. It ate of his own food and drank from his own cup and lay in his bosom; and it was like a daughter to him. And a traveler came to the rich man, who refused to take from his own flock and from his own herd to prepare one for the wayfaring man who had come to him; but he took the poor man’s lamb and prepared it for the man who had come to him.”

Of Course, David is outraged and sentences the man to death, but Nathan isn’t finished.

Then Nathan said to David, “You are the man! Thus says the Lord God of Israel: ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. I gave you your master’s house and your master’s wives into your keeping, and gave you the house of Israel and Judah. And if that had been too little, I also would have given you much more! Why have you despised the commandment of the Lord, to do evil in His sight? You have killed Uriah the Hittite with the sword; you have taken his wife to be your wife, and have killed him with the sword of the people of Ammon.

What is King David’s response? How does this great king handle being told he has sinned?

 So David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.”

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5 Steps to Repentance: Why I’m Writing about It

Repentance is not a popular topic. It came to my attention this week because of a a restless feeling I had. I knew I was in some kind of disobedience and I couldn’t figure out what. When I sought the Lord, He moved in my heart and showed me where I had gone astray.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if 
there is any wicked way in me,
And lead me in the way everlasting. (Psalm 139:23-24)

David understood the importance of asking the Lord to search his heart. Lullaby Lark writes an excellent post about knowing the condition of your heart.

What is Repentance?

What is repentance? Mirriam Webster defines repentance:

to turn from sin and dedicate oneself to the amendment of one’s life,  to feel regret or contrition

The five steps to repentance

  • acknowledging the sin
  • confessing the sin
  • asking forgiveness
  • turning away from the sin
  • restoring the wrong done

King David and the Steps to Repentance

Let’s continue our story of David as we talk about repentance in the Bible and see how he follows the five steps of repentance. After David is confronted by Nathan, he is very sorrowful and pens Psalm 51.

Have mercy upon me, O God,
According to Your lovingkindness;
According to the multitude of Your tender mercies,
Blot out my transgressions.
Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity,
And cleanse me from my sin.

For I acknowledge my transgressions,
And my sin is always before me.
Against You, You only, have I sinned,
And done this evil in Your sight—
That You may be found just when You speak,
And blameless when You judge.

Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity,
And in sin my mother conceived me.
Behold, You desire truth in the inward parts,
And in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom.

Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean;
Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.
Make me hear joy and gladness,
That the bones You have broken may rejoice.
Hide Your face from my sins,
And blot out all my iniquities.

10 Create in me a clean heart, O God,
And renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me away from Your presence,
And do not take Your Holy Spirit from me.

12 Restore to me the joy of Your salvation,
And uphold me by Your generous Spirit.

We can see the five steps of repentance in David’s prayer.

  • “For I acknowledge my transgressions” (acknowledge the sin)
  • “Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight” (confess the sin)
  • “According to the multitude of Your tender mercies Blot out my transgressions.” (ask for forgiveness)
  • “Make me hear joy and gladness, That the bones You have broken may rejoice.” (turning away from the sin)
  • “Restore to me the joy of Your salvation, And uphold me by Your generous Spirit.” (restore the wrong done)
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More Verses about Repentance in the Bible

The Bible has repentance verses with two different themes. Verses about repenting from our sinful nature and also verses about repenting from specific sins.

After Peter’s sermon on the Day of Pentecost in which he preaches to a multitude proclaiming that Jesus was the prophesied Messiah.

37 Now when they heard this, they were cut to the heart, and said to Peter and the rest of the apostles, “Men and brethren, what shall we do?”

38 Then Peter said to them, “Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. (Acts 2:37-38)

 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins. (James 5:20)

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)

The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance. (2 Peter 3:9)

if My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land. (2 Chronicles 7:14)

So rend your heart, and not your garments;
Return to the Lord your God,
For He is gracious and merciful,
Slow to anger, and of great kindness;
And He relents from doing harm. (Joel 2:13)

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Signs of True Repentance

So you acknowledge, confess, and ask forgiveness. Now what?

Signs of true repentance are the last two steps. These are proof that you’ve repented.

Turning away from the sin and restoring the wrong.

For these last two, let’s go to the nation of Judah. They have just gone through several wicked kings who wanted nothing to do with the True God. Hezekiah has inherited the throne. Listen to what the Bible says about Hezekiah.

And he did what was right in the sight of the Lord, according to all that his father David had done. He removed the high places and broke the sacred pillars, cut down the wooden image and broke in pieces the bronze serpent that Moses had made; for until those days the children of Israel burned incense to it, and called it Nehushtan. He trusted in the Lord God of Israel, so that after him was none like him among all the kings of Judah, nor who were before him. For he held fast to the Lord; he did not depart from following Him, but kept His commandments, which the Lord had commanded Moses. The Lord was with him; he prospered wherever he went. (2 Kings 18:3-7)

It is not enough to simply repent for your sins. You must turn away from them and restore the wrong done. In the case of Hezekiah, he removed all idolatry and set up the commandments of the Lord in Judah.

The last part is my favorite, “The Lord was with him”.

Why was the Lord with him? Because he “held fast to the Lord and did not depart from following him”. He restored the wrong done with the children of Judah.

I would like to pause here and point out that these same repentance principles apply when you wrong someone else, not just God. Many relationships have been ruined due to a lack of repentance and turning away from the hurt caused by wrong actions. Rock Solid Faith does a wonderful job of covering forgiveness and healing.

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More Examples of True Repentance in the Bible

Jonah has been instructed to proclaim God’s judgment on the wicked city of Nineveh. He refuses and runs from God. He is on a ship trying to escape the word of the Lord when a huge storm comes which results in Jonah being thrown overboard and swallowed by a large fish.

We all know the story, but have you ever thought about the steps it took Jonah to repent? From the belly of the whale, he cries out to the Lord.

“I cried out to the Lord because of my affliction,
And He answered me.

“Out of the belly of Sheol I cried,
And You heard my voice.
For You cast me into the deep,
Into the heart of the seas,
And the floods surrounded me;
All Your billows and Your waves passed over me.
Then I said, ‘I have been cast out of Your sight;
Yet I will look again toward Your holy temple.’ (Jonah 2:1-4)

He looks around his bleak situation, well aware that God has saved his life for a reason. He acknowledges his sin and confesses.

“When my soul fainted within me,
I remembered the Lord;
And my prayer went up to You,
Into Your holy temple.

“Those who regard worthless idols
Forsake their own Mercy.
But I will sacrifice to You
With the voice of thanksgiving;
I will pay what I have vowed.
Salvation is of the Lord.” (Jonah 2:7-9)

Jonah repents and decides to obey. He stops running and sets out to make right his wrong.

One Last Word on the Steps of Repentance

It’s your turn. Do you have a sin lurking which you need to bring before the Lord? Is disobedience ruining your walk with God? Have you wronged your neighbor and need to humbly ask forgiveness in order to save your relationship?

How could a man, who is considered a man after God’s own heart, commit such terrible sins? Why did God continue to honor him?

David had a humble heart. He responded when chastised and set an example for us all.

“God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)

And one of my favorites…

For thus says the High and Lofty One
Who inhabits eternity, whose name is Holy:
“I dwell in the high and holy place,
With him who has a contrite and humble spirit,
To revive the spirit of the humble,
And to revive the heart of the contrite ones. (Isaiah 57:15)

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34 thoughts on “5 Steps to Repentance: David as Our Example”

  1. Can you have true repentance and not tell your spouse you’ve been unfaithful but have cried out to God and confess and have turned your ways and are truly seeking the Lord?

    1. Carissa, this is not an easy question to answer as I do not know the details of your situation. Repentance is personal, between you and God. However, you did not only sin against God, but also against your husband. I don’t know that you can restore a marriage with a sin that large between you. May I email you and then we can talk this through and pray together?

  2. Enjoyed this teaching outline of repentance. God is faithful. I’m going to be teaching on repentance this Sunday. I think it important to know that even God repented after he made man. John the Baptist and Jesus began their ministry with “repent”.

  3. Hi heather

    I loved this 5 steps to repentance.
    Am due to do my first teaching at my church in November and was thinking of doing it on this very subject.

    Have you any guidance

  4. I am sincerely overwhelmed by the short straightforward explanation of the 5 steps to repentance in such simple language. God console and endow you even richer.

  5. U have really inspired me. I’m getting ready for teaching on repentance as a topic so u have really opened my mind on what to do. God bless you.

  6. So I should apologize not only to God but the person I have wronged? This is so hard but I know I need to do it.

  7. When I saw the title of this post, my first thought was just what you said – we seldom hear about repentance. It seems we need frequent reminders of what should be the most basic parts of our faith. Thank you.

  8. Repentance is something we all must do on a daily basis. It’s the work of the Holy Spirit that does the convicting to keep our hearts aligned with God’s word when we get off course. Great list on the steps of repentance too.

  9. Repentance is such an important and refreshing benefit of being a Christian. Because of the Holy Spirit’s work in our lives, we have the power to overcome sin and live a life that pleases God ?

      1. I have really enjoyed the Lesson. Repentance . I strongly agree With Angie, that repentance should be a daily activity in our Christian lives.

      2. For me the key lesson here is that repentance is imperative if we want God to forgive us our iniquities and turn His face towards us.

        The five steps describes true repentance as they are not easy To most it is hard to aknowledge that they have sinned. Hard to say sorry.

        Confession, asking for forgiveness besides turning away from the sin (s) is an uphill task while the hardest of all is restoring the wrong done- e.g returning what was stolen. I’m touched by the word.

        1. You are right, Timothy. Many people don’t want to confess that they have done something wrong. I think the turning away from sin is one that is often overlooked. We repent because it clears our conscious but unless we have a true desire to serve God, it does us little good. Thank you for visiting!

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